I’ve found that a lot of people, especially girls, see being single as something to be sad about and something that makes them feel unfulfilled. Being single can make you feel like you’re missing out on something special that you see other people sharing. It can make you feel lonely and like you have no one of significance to share your life with. It can even lead to feeling like you’re unloveable and ultimately feeling a sense of despair over your lack of a love life. But I am here to tell you that it’s all crap because being single is empowering.
When you’re single, the world is your oyster and you get to live for yourself. That’s right: you can literally do whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it. The possibilities are endless. First off, you’re free to meet anyone. By not being tied down to the wrong person, it frees you up to meet the right person and that opportunity is really exciting when you think about it. On top of that, you’re free to do anything you want. Want to travel? Go. Want to move? Go. Want to see some obscure band no one else is really that into? Go. Want to adopt a child or pet? Do it. Want to eat a roast beef sandwich for breakfast? Do it. Want to spend the holidays with only your family? Do it. Want to spend the entire weekend as a hermit watching Netflix? Do it. Want to stop shaving your body for the foreseeable future? Do it. Life is all about what YOU want to do and it’s a great way for you to find your true self and develop into the adult you want to be before finding someone to pair up with. When you’re single, you realize that the relationship you have with a significant other shouldn’t be the only strong relationship in your life. It’s very easy to get caught up in a relationship and not make time for the other people in your life. Being single forces you to appreciate all the other people you have in your corner and to develop stronger relationships with them that you’ll be less likely to take for granted and neglect when you do eventually get into a romantic relationship. Take the opportunity to spend a lot of time with your family and friends and to even make new friends. Go sit at a bar and eat dinner by yourself and see who you end up meeting or take a co-worker up on a happy hour offer. Also, sometimes it’s nice to just be alone to process your thoughts and build confidence as an individual.
When you’re single, you have no reason to feel unloveable because if you really want a significant other, you can find someone to date you. But the question is: is it the type of person you really want to be with? Most of the time the answer is no and that’s why you’re single. I bet you can think of at least one person that you know for sure would date you. Therefore, you’re single because it’s YOUR CHOICE and not that no one wants to be with you. You just haven’t found someone that wants to be with you who you also want to be with. Being single doesn’t make you unloveable, it means you have standards and are waiting for the right person instead of just any person.
So, don’t despair! Being single allows you to develop into your best self and ultimately find your best match. The next time you think about settling for the sake of having someone, remember: you don’t want to have a Joker in your bed when a King comes knocking on your door.